If you’re trying to find peace and get past emotional pain, When You’re Ready, This Is How You Heal by Brianna Wiest is a must-read. It’s packed with helpful advice on healing from old wounds, dealing with trauma, and finding self-love again. With simple tips and real-life insights, it guides you through the journey of letting go and taking back control of your life. Whether you’re going through grief, a tough breakup, or just want to heal in your own way, this book has something for everyone. In this article we will summaries main learnings from the book.
Embrace Change
Change is a part of life, whether we plan for it or not. Instead of fighting it, we should learn to accept it. Standing at the edge of a diving board, you feel nervous, but you know it’s time to jump. We’ve all stayed in our comfort zones for too long, convincing ourselves that it’s the right place. But change is like a little push, opening up new possibilities we didn’t see before.
Sticking to what’s familiar might feel safe, but it’s like travelling and constantly checking the map. If you keep doubting your path, you might not be on the right one. True happiness doesn’t come from hitting every milestone; it comes from enjoying the journey and growing along the way. It’s like cooking a meal by following every step exactly, but still ending up with something tasteless. Real satisfaction comes from being in tune with yourself and growing, not just ticking off goals.
Feel like you’re behind? Life isn’t a race; it’s more like a maze. Everyone’s path is different—some find dead ends, while others discover shortcuts. There’s no fixed timeline. Worrying about being behind is just an illusion. Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own progress. It’s like dancing—if you focus too much on others, you’ll miss the joy in your own moves.
Setbacks aren’t failures, they’re just chances to take a different path. If you hit a blocked trail, it’s not the end; it’s an opportunity to find something new. So when change comes, trust it. Give yourself time to figure it out, knowing that the real journey is the one that helps you grow and lets your true self shine.
Debunking five self-limiting thought patterns:
Let’s break down five thought patterns that may be holding you back from living the life you want.
First, there’s the idea that life is just a series of ups and downs. You might think that every good thing comes with a downside, like you’re always waiting for something bad to happen after something good. This mindset makes it hard to fully enjoy the good moments. Instead, start trusting that good things can stick around, and life doesn’t always have to be hard.
Next, there’s the belief that you have to suffer through things you hate to get to a better life. You might stay in a job or situation that drains you, thinking it’s the only way to eventually be free. But hating every day won’t lead to happiness. Focus on finding what makes you feel alive and brings joy into your life.
The third pattern is feeling responsible for every problem around you. Maybe you always worry about things you can’t control. Not everything is your burden to carry. Learn to recognize what’s actually in your control and let go of the rest. It’ll help ease unnecessary stress.
Another trap is thinking you need to be “successful” to be happy or “beautiful” to be loved. Success and beauty are defined by society, but what if you set your own definitions? When you live on your own terms and embrace your authentic self, that’s real success and beauty.
Lastly, there’s the belief that you’re defined by how others see you. You might shape your identity based on other people’s opinions. But what if you took the time to understand who you really are? When you start living for yourself, others will see you differently too.
By recognizing and challenging these thought patterns, you can create a life that feels true to you.
Power of Letting Go
The power of letting go is about freeing ourselves from things that no longer serve us. We often wait until we’re forced to let go, but what if we started seeing it as a skill we could develop?. Start small, like letting go of minor annoyances or old objects that no longer match who you are today. It’s like cleaning out your closet — you aren’t the same person you were when you bought that favorite shirt years ago, so why hold onto it?
Now, think about relationships. Sometimes we pour love into people who aren’t ready to give it back, much like watering a plant that just won’t grow. Instead of wasting energy, why not focus on those who are ready to grow with you? It’s about creating space in your life for people who genuinely care and support you. Letting go isn’t about loss; it’s about accepting what’s already gone and making room for what truly matters.
The more we practice this art of releasing, the more we allow our lives to be filled with what truly nourishes us. And in doing so, we open up to receiving the love and energy that is ready to flow back into our lives.
Chasing your Aspirations while still in Doubt
Dreams can be both exciting and scary. Whether you’re just starting out, trying to change things up, or finally sharing your passion with the world, that mix of excitement and doubt is something we all face. It’s like there’s always a push and pull between wanting to chase your dreams and the fear that holds you back. But here’s a little secret: don’t just look up to the “big names” in your field. Look around at your peers, the people going through similar journeys. Comparing yourself to the greats will only make you feel smaller, but their success? That’s proof it’s possible for you too.
We often think only the super talented or perfect people make it. The truth? Many successful people just kept showing up, despite the doubts and imperfections. Even your idols had day jobs, they didn’t start out perfect. Success isn’t about being the best from day one, it’s about having the courage to keep going.
Think about your favorite books or art. They’re not all masterpieces, right? But they speak to you. That’s the magic. You don’t need to be famous or have a massive audience to be worthy. What matters is creating something real, something that shows a part of you. That’s what people connect with. We all want to feel understood, and your unique story can make that happen.
Remember, you’re a work in progress. Your journey will have bumps, but those challenges are what turn an ordinary story into something amazing. Keep going, because that’s how greatness happens.
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